Psalm 139:14 I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Marvelous are Your works, And that my soul knows very well.
We live in a world where many people are seeking validation from relationships or connections they have with others. It’s not wrong to make connections and relate with others. Nonetheless, it’s important to understand your essence as a person at the core of every decision about relationships and connections. This is someone who knows their identity. They walk in that consciousness. They refuse to be blackmailed into doing things just to win the favor of others. Jesus grew in favor with God and men but never had to compromise on the essence of His person. Luke 2:52.
This excerpt, Knowing You, is a call to understanding who you are as a person. Discovering what God has said about you and becoming the fullness of who He had in mind while creating you as this is key in life. At the end of the day, you will give an account on how much you measured up to the original design He purposed for you.
In the opening scripture, David says he will praise God and the reason is how he was made. I can assure you that he came to that place of knowing he was beautifully crafted because he had meditated on the person God had designed.
To be full of praise, you have to be pensive. It takes being thoughtful to be thankful.
Then David says, ‘That my soul knows very well‘. He mentions his soul and that is how I know his thoughts and meditations were involved. Now I understand that David faced Goliath not just with empty words. He knew who he was. That knowledge influenced his initiative.
Before you can achieve progress and success in a partnership, you have to know You.
Know ‘You‘ before you engage ‘We‘.
Many times when people think of marriage, friendship, or relationships in general, they focus on the other person. They never focus on themselves. We say, ‘I want to marry someone like this, who has that.’ or ‘I need a friend who will be this to me or do that for me.’ What about focusing on your self? When you understand who you are, your choices would be different because those choices will emanate from that knowledge.
Many times, people should have been truly single. Instead, they moved from one relationship to the next. Trust me, they were hurt, battered, and abused by those they connected with. The hurt version of themselves makes choices today. So they lost the essence of who they really are. When Songs of Solomon 8:4 says Do not awaken love until the time is right, this is the purpose. This is a secret: When you know you, you won’t have to be shuffling relationships, especially romantic ones.
In Genesis 2:19 – 23, we see Adam naming animals the Lord brought to him. Later, God made Adam fall into a deep sleep. During this time, the Lord made the woman. He brought her to Adam just like the animals. Then Adam named her based on her purpose in his life. Adam never called any animal his wife because he knew himself. He said, ‘this is bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh.’ He knew she was taken out of him, even though he wasn’t awake at the time. The question here: Is it possible we have wrongly defined people in our lives who shouldn’t have been so? You friend zoned the person you should have married. You dated the one who should have introduced you to your career mentor for advancement.
In Ecclesiastes 4:9-10, the Bible says, Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labor. If they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him that is alone when he falls. He has no one to help him up. This means two is meant to be better than one. Still, for two to be better, each individual must have worked on themselves. Only then can they make a great team. In Proverbs 27:17, we see that Iron sharps iron; so a man sharpens the countenance of his friend. Relationships and connections are meant to make us better, not worse. That happens when you know yourself. You must be able to choose people who are like you. They can also be even better to help you grow and become a better version of yourself.
Three things in the journey to knowing you:
- A relationship with God because He made you and knows you the most.
- Renewal of your mind with the Word because if there’s anything to limit you, it will be your mind, emotions and choices but the last two will depend on the mind.
- Surround yourself with the right people because they can make or unmake you by influence.
In conclusion, my message to someone reading is focus on you. It’s not selfish when you have to grow. Focusing on you becomes selfish when it’s meant to demean others. Some people don’t have a relationship with themselves and they want to be in a relationship with another person. Enjoy your own company. This way, you won’t always feel like you must be part of a group to be validated. When you become a person of value after focusing and working on you, those people would look for you regardless.
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